Sexual touching as the male get older is melancholic as the oldie grieves for the sexual lives he might have lived

As one gets older let us cite an example of an ageing Polician, Sexual harassment, we might then say, is the great male performative, the act through which a man aims to convince his target, not only that he is the one with the power – which is true – but also that his power and his sexuality are one and the same thing. 

As Judith Butler has argued, the performative is always melancholic, since the performer knows the role they are enacting is no more than skin deep (‘melancholic’ also because of all the other buried and unconsciously grieved sexual lives one might have led).

There is  a pathetic injunction to this kind of tactile behaviour it serves as the injunction

 ‘You wont forget me you will think about me.’