Making others responsible for how you feel

Making others responsible for how you feel is the tendency to scapegoat. 

Such a person refuses to ever accept culpability because he believes his feeling bad and his ill-constitution will be easier to bear if he can find someone to make responsible for it. S/he he must recriminate and distribute blame.  Indeed s/he needs

others  to be evil in order to be able to consider himself good.

This is the quintessential attitude of begrudgery, and resentment