Ultimately, are we responsible for our selves?

Of course we are responsible and have a duty to ourselves, our families and our fellow citizens

but some regard that as surface social hygiene.

But stretch out further, think of your heredity, upbringing and environment, your genes!

So are we  the outcome of indeterministic events, ie we did not determine them, for we did not choose our parents.

. In order to be ultimately responsible for how one is, one would already have to have existed prior to one’s choice, with a certain set of preferences about how to be, in the light of which one chose how to be. 

But then the question would arise: where did these preferences come from? Or were they just there, unchosen preferences for which one was not ultimately responsible? 

To be ultimately responsible for oneself one would have had to have chosen these preferences in turn. But then one would need another set of preferences in the light of which one chose them. And so on and infitie regress.