Tearful apologies may not work. The tenor of the apology may be in the realm of the offence ie, a family row, and
" I never wan to see you again!" type angry and tearful drama, "In fact, I never want to say any of my family again."
So in this heated moment you effectively orphan yourself from the family
Then you follow it the next with an equally emotive tearful verbal apology.
What is probably for the best, (I hedge advice as all opinions are theories) is to send a measured written note (if you ever want someone to show their hand ask them to write something it is in this way that they really reveal themselves).
Another mode of apology that sweep nations like a bush fire, is the growth of 12 Step Programmes
AA, NA Sex addicts Over Eaters anonymous et al where a key requirement of the programme is to seek out the person sinned against and apologise; net result you feel better and the sinned against may be upset by the recall of the trauma.
Source: Psychology Today
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