The essence of humans is valuing families - not being do goody universal termites

 Woke people keep talking about engineering personality  to make it more moral. The aRGUMENT AGAISNT THIS IS THAT IF SUCCESFUL IT WOULD TURN everybody into termites or something.

  it would have to be something so different from humans for the   essence of us is that the things we value are close connections and families and groups, and that necessarily means that we care about other people less.

Morals have to appeal  had to be the consent of plausibly self-interested people, not rational ghosts.