Let us take the case of a promiscuous woman who has regular one-night stands,while complaining all the time how bad and miserable and guilty she feels about it? The thing not to do,of course, is to try to convince her that one-night stands are bad, the cause of her troubles, which as placed her in some kind of ego noose; some libidinal deadlock—for in this way, one merely feeds her symptomsigns,which is condensed in her (misleading) dissatisfaction with one-night stands.
That is to say, it is obvious that what gives the woman true satisfaction is not promiscuity as such,b ut the very accompanying feeling of being miserabl; that is the source of her “masochistic”enjoyment.
The strategy should thus be, as a first step, not to convince her that her promiscuity is pathological, but,on the contrary,to convince her that there is nothing to feel bad or guilty about: if she really enjoys one-night stands,she should continue to have them without any negative feelings.The trick is that,once she is confronted with one-night stands without what appears to be the obstacle preventing her from fully enjoying them,but is in reality the
objet petit, the feature that allows her to enjoy them, will lose their attraction, deniied now purging masochism, the one night stands become meaningless denied the feature (masims) through which she can only enjoy them -
her one night stands will lose their compulsive attraction.
Next patient please...and what can I do for you?
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