The irrationality of love

One must  call one's  attention to the very irrationality of love itself, as we almost always open the possibility for hurt and injury. ‚
That we are compelled in love means that we are, in part, unknowing about why we love as we do and why we invariably exercise bad judgment.
Exposed before the other even when in or because of love, there is still a
Exposed before the other even when in or because of love, there is still a need for critical autonomy, a critical autonomy, however, that is grounded in the knowledge of the opacity of the human subject.
But self-knowledge comes at a price. The price is to tell the truth while suspending a ‚…critical relation to the truth regime in which one lives.‛  After all when one tells the truth one must consider not only the self, but also how that self is ‚produced and producible.‛

Thank you Judith Butler