The ‘fear
of losing’ emerges time and again in Klein: ‘There is ... in the unconscious mind a tendency to give [the
mother] up, which is counteracted by the urgent desire to keep her for ever.’
This form of ambivalence emerges developmentally as an emotional bind when
individuation isn’t complete. But since individuation is never complete, and
dependency never really overcome, a broader ethical dilemma ensues.
It is a matter of recognising that dependency fundamentally defines us: it is
something I never quite outgrow, no matter how old and how individuated I may
seem. And it isn’t that you and I are the same; rather, it is that we
invariably lean towards and on each other, and it is impossible to think about
either of us without the other
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